Yesterday I had one of those funny hypothetical discussions with someone, about what one would wish for if one had three wishes. The parameters required no "global wishes" such as world peace and cures for various dreadful diseases, which (hopefully) most of us would wish for if such things were possible. These had to be wishes for oneself. I thought, I pondered, and I imagined. I came up with my first wish fairly quickly. I wished that I could have a long, healthy life, and that I would eventually pass on quite painlessly and without great suffering. To me, that was a reasonable wish, as far as wishes go.
I had to try a bit harder with my second wish. I was initially stumped for a while...but I came up with the wish that at the end of my life, I wish that I will be able to look back without any regret. I want to know that I made the best decisions I could, given the knowledge I had at any given time, and that I never threw away a worthy opportunity. I wanted to feel that I'd lived life to the best of my ability, and that I'd learned from mistakes, rather than becoming bitter or frustrated by them.
So it came to the third wish. I considered carefully....what else could I wish for, specifically for myself, that I really, really wanted? After a while, what I really, really wanted was the ability to come up with a third wish! In all seriousness, I couldn't really come up with one. Sure, I could wish for a million dollars or a fancy car or a fully functioning fibre mill in my backyard. But really....did I really wish for those things? No. Fancy cars are no more useful than my 2002 Jetta. I don't want to be responsible for the upkeep of a fully functional fibre mill. A million dollars would be great for setting up a sheep and goat sanctuary, but that's not "for me" as much as it is for them. Anyway, having too much money brings people out of the woodwork who think they're entitled to some of it, and causes no end of heartache.
This led me to think about my life, and who I am, and brought me to the rather wonderful conclusion that I have all I need, or I have the ability to get what I need. I do not really wish for anything more than what I have. This was a sort of "epiphany" moment for me, because I don't really think very often in abstract terms of wishes that cannot be fulfilled. More than anything, my inability to find a third wish helped me realize that I must be on the right track in life, that I could have the luxury of not really needing a third wish.
I've thought about it several times since the conversation, but I still can't come up with a good third wish. I've toyed with frivolous ideas like a lifetime supply of key lime cheesecake, or aged gouda cheese, or even Bendick's Bittermints (a delicious British chocolate covered mint fondant confection). I thought I was onto something when I decided to wish for a garden that always looked beautiful and took care of itself, but really, that takes away the joy of gardening. The closest I've come so far is a house that cleans itself. I'm not a natural house-cleaner.
So I take it out to you, my blog readers - what are your three wishes, for yourself, and only yourself? What am I forgetting or missing? Or do you, too, find it hard to think of wishes?
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